Trust has been a hot topic that has come up for me a lot lately. The answer is actually surprisingly simple: because in that moment, I didn’t trust myself. So why was I so convinced I needed someone else to affirm my decision and say it was okay? Why was I seeking external permission? I was seeking permission from other people, when all I really had to do was grant it to myself. I found myself looking to my team, my friends, and my husband for reassurance, wanting them to say ‘It’s okay, Melissa! You can take some time off!’. Yet I felt like I couldn’t actually allow myself that space without someone else giving me permission. I knew in my heart that I needed to pull back a little - to step back from work, to slow down, to give myself the time and space I was craving. Not exactly the most enlightened way to live, right?! By looking outside of yourself for that rubber stamp of approval, you’re voluntarily choosing to give away your power and live your life according to someone else’s rules…
Sometimes we want that external reassurance on big things, sometimes it’s for trivial things, but whatever the size of the permission slip you’re seeking, one thing’s for sure: it’s a stinky habit to fall into.
We do it in all sorts of different circumstances - whether it’s our health, our wealth or our love life - and it’s something us ladies seem particularly prone to. It’s really easy to fall into the trap of looking to other people for permission.
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